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Do super-driven people miss out on some of life’s greatest joys? Are we not eating enough ice cream cones and feeling the sand between our toes?

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Lately, I have been thinking about the dark side of grit and in particular how being goal-directed in the extreme can be a bad thing. If you are spending a large proportion of your 168 hours per week pursuing goals, you may be spending fewer hours savoring the present moment being mindful. So these strivers who are rushing around getting stuff done, are maybe less happy. Maybe they’re just missing out, right? I mean…

Do you ever get paralyzed by the question of your existence and the meaning of life? This is not a light question. It's pretty heavy. But wait, there's actually a second question. How do you recover and make decisions from that? So, do you personally ever experience this kind of paralysis?

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The need for meaning, the yearning for meaning, the search for meaning is universal. It's just instinctive that all of us at some point in some way, in some wording, ask this question, what's the meaning of life and what's the meaning of my life? I thought about it…

At a time when there are so many political, socio economic and environmental issues to worry about, how do you decide where to invest your energy?

Is there some rank ordering that you've already come to?

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As I understand it, it is a good thing to care about important things and other people.

One of the things that seems to be happening right now, especially in certain quadrants of America, where people consume a lot of media and social media, is that there is an abundance of things to care about, to feel worried about, and often enraged by. …

There are two kinds of statistics, the kind you look up and the kind you make up.

-Rex Stout

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This is true but there are some caveats, I think there are some people for whom data, statistics, theory , etc., do stick to their brains better than stories. It’s not as extreme as forgetting a story, rather preferential.

If I tell a story;

I went to the grand canyon to go bungee jumping, but they didn’t have bungee jumping so they shot me out of a cannon and I lived.

You’d probably remember this. This was made up by the…

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”

— Tony Robbins

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I am a maximizer. That means when it comes to my work, I’m always trying to do better as compared to my previous self . That’s what maximizers try to do in general, they try to optimize outcomes to get the most positive results. That’s the intuitive answer, at least the way I hope economists would define it, which is settling for the best and nothing less.

Satisficing on the other hand is a more recent idea that comes from Nobel Herbert Simon. Simon explores…

Most women use sanitary pads for urinary incontinence because they are cheaper or just want to avoid the embarrassment of having to clear it at the counter. This embarrassment doesn’t just come from purchasing it, the topic itself is awkward and a lot of people with this condition refuse to admit this which lets it go underdiagnosed and underreported.

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Menstruation is becoming less and less a taboo topic and is considered normal for women to buy pads.

If you live with incontinence, you’re not alone. According to a research by National Centre for Biotechnology Information, in women, moderate and severe…

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'If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them and half as much money'

-Abigail Van Buren

It is one of the biggest questions in social science. How much our future life or attributes is affected or determined by who we are earlier on is often depicted in quotes by Ancient philosophers and theologians like Aristotle, “Give me a child until he is seven, and I will show you the man.” …

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If you’ve ever tried to lose weight, you know how difficult it can be. If you’ve succeeded, hats off to you because it can test everything you’ve got and have you wondering why you started in the first place.

“It has to be hard, so you’ll never ever forget"

-Bob Harper

We face a lot of hurdles when it comes to weight loss but if we can identify them, we can overcome it.

Uneducated assumptions

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"The greater the power, the more dangerous the abuse."

-Edmund Burke

Cancel culture has certainly helped to give a voice to the voiceless but what happens when you have too much power? Trolling people online has become ideal as you might have the excuse of cancel culture or a trend to validate bullying. I've had a lot of people advise to use twitter less as issues are fueled and instigated to look way worse than they actually are.

To reiterate, it has its advantages but we can agree that there have been a lot of times that cancel culture went…

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